Writing To Your Loved One
|OPENING:||Begin your letter with a nickname or an endearing name you use only for your loved one..|
|BODY OF LETTER:|
|1st paragraph||Say something nice, like what you admire about them.|
|2nd paragraph||Refer back to their last letter or phone conversation and say something to encourage them in whatever they’re doing. Show interest in their activities, wants, needs, dreams, etc. Ask if you can be of help.|
|3rd paragraph||Describe a few of your activities (things like what you eat, what you’re allowed to have, what your sleeping quarters are like, what TV you watch).|
|4th paragraph||Express concerns, wants, needs, dreams, worries, deep feelings, and what they can do, if it’s important to you.|
|5th paragraph||Think of something positive to tell them. Something that will make them smile – a cute story, a joke, a positive way in which you’re changing, a drawing or poem.|
|6th paragraph||Tell them you miss them and long to hear from them. Perhaps you need to say “I’m sorry”. Can you please forgive me?”|
|SIGNING OFF:||End with an expression of your love, and your pet or special name.|
- Write the way you talk.
- Use familiar words.
- Use simple terms.
- Write to express, not to impress.
- Pray. Ask God to help you write.
- If you’re angry, agitated, or upset, just drop a note saying you’ll “write when the sun comes out”. Use this phrase as your code to let your loved one know you’re having a bad day, etc.
- If you have to write about a difficult subject, put it on a separate sheet of paper, set it aside and go back to it later. You may want to change it.
Consider the person’s hobbies or interests.
Send clippings, adding your own comment.
Write about a shared memory.
Write about your situation. Be honest. But try to focus on the positive.
When possible be light-hearted.
ESPECIALLY FOR CHILDREN
Write stories to your children. Make up characters. Use a picture to get ideas.
Write to them about things you liked to do when you were young.
Write to sons about sports, cars, how you spend your day, etc.
Write to daughters about music, friends, what you eat, etc.
Keep the lines of communication open and in good shape.
Tell them you are sorry if you have hurt them.
Encourage them to write to you by asking questions- about school, job, their friends, fears, how they feel about you, etc.
The paper and pen may be your best friend.